Difficult teenagers. Begench
Difficult teenagers "Begench"
Who are difficult teenagers? Why do teenagers become difficult? Today there is term "adolescence with risk behaviour". I would like to tell you more about these young people.
Teenagers are children; but a little older. Like all children, teenagers need attention, role models and safe environment. When children remain without support, i.e. parents cannot pay enough attention to them; they begin to look for someone to imitate, so to speak, “authority” or role models to follow. At a young age, the one who breaks the rules becomes the authority. Such "authority" was found by Begench, who has been one of the best volunteers of "Keyik Okara" for 6 years.
I met Begench near my house. Begench spent a lot of time on the street, doing things that his parents would not allow. But apparently they had no control over Begench. Later I found out that this is indeed the case. Due to health reasons, Begench's parents could not provide the proper care that a teenager needs. At the same time, adults around did not care about the safety and well-being of a teenager who spent all his time on the street. It got to the point that Begench was registered with the police and he was placed for the second year in the ninth grade. The guy was in despair, but did not know how to help himself. Therefore, his despair resulted in aggression and denial of everything and everyone. I invited him to the youth center of "Keyik Okara". Fortunately, Begench agreed.
Like all teenagers with risk behaviours, Begench did not show his interest in our group work; during training sessions he joked rudely or did not answer at all. In our center, we conducted trainings for teenagers on what volunteering is, how to resolve conflicts, and gave children moral education. After some time, Begench opened up from a completely new side. He was responsible and caring; he encouraged beginners not to repeat his mistakes. We held a master class in photography and made Begench our photographer. Begench became the leader of the Peer to Peer program, which helps teenagers pass on knowledge and skills to each other. For some time, Begench worked with teenagers from the category of adolescence with risk behaviour and brought in new people to the centre.
The most important thing is that teenagers with risk behaviours realize what is good for them and what destroys them. A child, teenager, like any other person, needs a safe environment where their talents are developed and supported.
Now Begench does not have a permanent job. He still does not have a diploma in any technical or vocational education. Begench works at car washes, parks cars, renovates houses and apartments, but in no case takes what does not belong to him. Now he knows exactly who he is and who he wants to be.
Children should live in a family, in safety. Children need kindness and understanding, attention and acceptance. Children and teenagers can't be bad. Adults who had a bad role model become bad. Take care of your children.
*If you want to support adolescence with risk behaviour in obtaining technical skills and vocational education, please contact the public organization "Keyik Okara" at +993 12 228185 and +993 12 229389
